Seating divorced or separated parents at a wedding
There's no single right answer — it depends on how well everyone gets on. These are the options couples use most often.
If they get on well
Use the normal top table and seat each parent with their current partner, keeping a few seats between the two couples (for example with the wedding party in between).
If it's polite but tense
- Give each parent their own "parents' table" near the front, which they host with their own family and friends.
- Keep the top table to the couple and the wedding party only.
If they can't be near each other
- Seat them on opposite sides of the room at equal distance from the couple, so neither feels demoted.
- Choose a sweetheart table for the two of you so there's no top table politics at all.
Tips
- Tell each parent where they'll sit before the day — no surprises.
- Step-parents usually sit with their partner; ask how they'd like it rather than guessing.
- Keep the plan flexible until RSVPs are final.
See also: top table order.
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